Saturday, 21 April 2018

So, We Co-Sleep Now?




It appears I am a co-sleeper... Again!


I slowly stopped co-sleeping with Isaac when we stopped our breastfeeding journey when he was about 4 months old. Co-sleeping at that time worked for us, I could feed him laying down & we all as a family had a decent nights sleep. Anything to catch a few hours shut eye with a newborn baby, was a winning in my books, but once we switched to formula, I made the decision that I wanted Isaac to sleep in his own bed- & surprisingly to MR.B & I, he took to it straight away & by the time he was 9 months old he was starting to sleep through! 


Don’t get me wrong, we still had a few rough nights now & again where MR.B & I tagged teamed to settle Isaac back down, BUT he was settled back down into his OWN bed, & slowly but surely it appeared we had a baby that slept 12 hours+ before he was 12 months old! We couldn’t believe it! We thought our luck was in! (Jamie & Gracie-Mae were pretty poor sleepers, Gracie-Mae had only started to sleep through properly when she was 5 years old, whilst I was pregnant with Isaac!!!) 


Fastward to now, at Isaac being 20 months old, & we have had to resort back to co-sleeping. I for one did not see this coming one bit! 


Here’s my dilemma- Isaac will (the majority of the time) settle down just fine when he goes up to bed at 7pm, then half midnight-1am he will wake up crying, calling out for either Mummy or Daddy. One of us will go on in & console him, will give him a cuddle & try to soothe him whilst he is in the cot. When we are under the impression that he is asleep/settled, we turn to leave & a bloody banshee has taken Isaac’s place!! 


He ends up doing this cry which is a truly heart in throat cry! He ends up not being able to catch his breath, goes blue/purple in the face & you can see the panic in his eyes because he can not breathe. We have to slowly blow in his face & eventually he catches his breath, goes slightly limp & cry’s some more. It’s honestly one of the worst things. 


Sooo what do we do? we bring him into our bed & he settles down as quick as switching off a light, some people will say we are making a rod of our own backs by doing this, but I honestly do not know what else we can do?


I absolutely love the IDEA of co sleeping. I love to offer my children love & security. I want them to know that if they are scared they can count on me. That’s why I let them come into my bed at night. I don’t have the heart or the energy to force them back to their beds at three in the morning, but I just can’t help being unhappy about it... this Mama wants her bed back & SLEEP!!!


So what’s a wannabe lone sleeper to do? Wait it out I guess. I love my children & they really are only little for a short period of time, I’m thinking that if this is what they need right now, they can have it. It makes me a little crazy, but I know it will be over soon enough.


One thing is for sure: I will be reunited with sound sleep one day. Until then pass the Smashbox Photo Finish Eyelid Primer & a shit ton of caffeine! Haha!


Have you co-slept with your children? Have you any advice for a sleep deprived Mama?



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