Tuesday, 20 February 2018

Mum Guilt- I’m Trying To Let It Go, & So Should You!

I know it’s been a while since I wrote my last personal post, I’ll admit I have been finding it quite hard to get in the zone- writers block, if you will. 

I’ve been feeling highly unmotivated of late, not just with my blog, but all aspects of my life- that’s the ugliness of depression I suppose, it makes you go up & down & swing in round-a-bouts. And one thing I’ve been feeling a lot lately is guilt, guilt, guilt! Why?! 

Feeling guilty for staying at home with the children & deciding not to go back to work just yet, guilty for feeling like I’m not giving the children enough equal attention, guilty for not being more present with MR.B, feeling guilty for planning an upcoming night out with my friends, guilty that the majority of the children’s half term was taken up with decorating & not spent solely with them- the list goes on & on.

I’m sure you’ve all heard of the term ‘Mum Guilt’? It SUCKS!

Feeling guilty is what we’re supposed to do as Mum’s though, right? At least, that’s what seems to be implied at every given turn. 

Last week I was in tears, I spoke to MR.B about all of these overwhelming feelings of guilt that I’ve been having & he put things into perspective & asked me this... "what's one thing that isn't going good for you/us as a family right now, what's one thing you are unhappy about...?" & I actually couldn't say one thing! 

Reality Check! 

Mum Guilt is an easy game to join in, & one that I have been playing for quite a while now, but I’ve decided I don’t want to be a part of that game anymore. And if you, reading this are feeling this ‘Mum Guilt’ for what ever reason it may be, my advice would be to LET IT GO. 

Feeling guilty implies wrongdoing. 

Is it wrong for you to take some time away from your spouse & children to go out for dinner with friends? NO- it’s a chance for you to recharge yourself & to just be YOU! 

Is it wrong for you to spend money on yourself instead of your children ie. getting your hair/nails done? NO- the children’s needs have been met, you DESERVE to treat yourself! 

Is it wrong for you to decide to be a stay at home mother or a working mother? NO- you are doing what ever is BEST suited for yourself & your family! 

If you believe that the choices & actions you’re taking are the best for yourself & your family at this particular time, despite what any other family is doing or not doing, then guilt has no place in your life! 

Be kind to yourselves Mama’s, you are all incredible! 


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